Sorry I haven't been around and commenting-- my mom and niece have been here for the past week (they leave this afternoon) and I've been busy entertaining them.
A lot of this week has been spent in swimsuits and clothes shopping (urgh, my bank account!). We took an impromptu trip to Pensacola Beach over the weekend and also have spent time at my pool. My mom hadn't seen me in person since my surgery, so she's been very complimentary and though my niece hasn't said a word about my weight loss, of course she's been hearing the conversations about it. She turns 13 in a couple of days, and she's right in the thick of her body changing in ways that typically make adolescent girls' body image plummet. I REALLY hope I'm not in any way contributing to her feeling bad about her weight or her body. Especially since she heard me tell my mom I have a consultation with a plastic surgery tomorrow morning.
I feel like I need to tell her that it's ok to have a non-perfect body, but I can't because it would make me a hypocrite. Basically, my trip to the ps is based on appearance and it makes me think I must be in denial about how I feel about my body, deep down. I mean on the one hand, I really sort of believe that I accept my body and I'm fine just the way I am. But on the other hand, I'm visiting a surgeon to see how much it would cost to fix my breasts (sooner rather than later), out of pocket, because the way they look is really starting to bug me. These two things don't add up. I'm not sure how to deal with the discrepancy. Maybe the price tag will deal with it one way or the other.
I'll also be asking for an estimate on my tummy work, but that will definitely be a year to two out. I have a lot of fat to lose yet (I think this last 30 lbs will show significant belly loss because it's definitely the sight of the most fat), and I want to wait until I have a good amount of non-interrupted recovery time for that particular surgery. But to be honest, I'd like to have the breasts done as soon as I can afford it (I think reduction, but maybe just a lift- that's something I'll find out tomorrow).
In weight news, my typical period-loss happened, and I have a new low of 168.
I think you can teach her to love her body. The fact that you are considering having PS to me...means that you are more aware of your body. It's not that you don't love it...you just want to look your best after having lost a considerable amount of weight.
ReplyDeleteYou are a great role model.
Way to go on the new low!
ReplyDeleteI think every girl is going to grow up thinking about what they don't like about their body. My mom never uttered a word about body image, hers or anyone else's, when i was growing up. But I have the most insecure feelings about my body because of other girls in my school.
So I wouldn't worry about what you're projecting, but I would discuss with her what a good body image is and why you need to love yourself no matter what. (But it's still ok to what to change things. We have to remember, change is a good thing sometimes, and much needed!)
Congrats on the new low!
ReplyDeleteI don't think telling her to be happy with her body and getting plastic surgery makes you a hypocrite. As a mother to two girls (still young), I've been trying to think of how I'd like them to look at their bodies and here's the thing. The reason I'm going to need plastic surgery is because I didn't respect my body and let it get all out of whack. I'm hoping that my girls will never need it becaue they'll grow up healthy and not abuse it the way I did. I don't know...just my 2 cents.
168!! YAY!!
ReplyDeleteThe body image thing is tough. I think (and I know nothing about kids...) that how you react to your body on a day-to-day basis has more impact than a one time surgery. You know what I mean?
what a fabulous new low!
ReplyDeleteIt is tough for girls at that age! But I would think you could have a conversation with her how you let your weight get to high and now you have to repair the damage!
It is amazing what she might get out of it even if it is an uncomfortable subject! Like sex! Ha@
Looking forward to hearing what the doc says!
my mom was just telling me that after her gastric bypass she would loose more weight during her period that most other times. I am guessing that is the case with you too! Cool. MAybe I can join that club too! We will see!!
ReplyDeleteHow awesome for the new low! congrats! I can't wait to get to a point where I can start looking into ps. keep us updated!
ReplyDeleteI think it's all about balance. I love my body but never would have loved it as much without my tummy tuck. Period. It had nothing to do with loving who I am as a person. It had to do with finishing a journey I worked my ass off for. Can't wait to hear how your consult goes. I had breast reduction too and it was easy peasy compared to the TT.
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